Is the Spirit of Gentleness in you?
Here is how you can find out. Discover what the fruits of gentleness are from God’s most precious Word by examining the passages below and asking yourself:
- How do I exhibit Gentleness in my daily life?
- What can I do to develop a better attitude of Gentleness?
- What blocks Gentleness from working and being exhibited in me?
- How can I make Gentleness function better, stronger and faster even in times of uncertainly and stress?
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.” Galatians 5:22-23
Gentleness is the character that will show calmness, personal care, tenderness and the Love of Yeshua in meeting the needs of others (Prov. 15:1; Isa. 40:11; 42:2-3; Philp. 4: 5; Matt. 5:5; 11:29; 12:15; Eph. 4:1-2; Col. 3:16; 2 Timothy 2:24; 1 Thessalonians 2:7). It is to be more than just a personality; it is to be who we are from the work of the Spirit within us.
Roughness and violence are the opposite! When we have the mindset to just see what we can get out of life and make a name for ourselves, we miss out on what is best for our benefit. It causes us to run over others and we end up being like the men who built the Tower of Babel (Gen. 11:1-9). Their downfall was not the building project but their pride and arrogance. They sought significance by their achievements alone, ignoring God’s love, care, plan and providence for a cheap and temporary substitute.
Here are positive examples from Scripture (Isa. 40:11; 42:1-3; Matt. 11:28-29; Luke 7:36-50; 10:38-42; John 8: 1-11; I Thess. 2:7-8)
Here is are negative examples from Scripture (Numbers 20:2-13; II Sam. 18:10-15; 19:1-8; I Kings 21: 5-14; Luke 9:51-56)
Gentleness is not being weak, gentleness is strength under control. It allows us to be tender, just think how big, vast and powerful God is. He is bigger than the universe, transcending space and time way beyond our comprehension. Yet, He treats us with the utmost of tenderness and care. Knowing gentleness is trusting that God will take care of justice. We need to think correctly about who God is and who we are in Him. This understanding of His sovereignty, doctrine and control will move us from the cruelty and busyness of life, to take time to grow relationships, because we are at peace with God.
Gentleness allows us to be caring and nurturing to others. It helps us stay calm and not escalate problems or push people’s buttons! To build others up by allowing them to grow. It places the other first, it is being selfless. The most important thing we can do for others is offering our friendship. When we are too full of pride, we cannot be gentle with others; we cannot be a friend, for all we will do is hurt them and push them away.
We can look to Yeshua who modeled ultimate gentleness and care. Being fully God He does not have to be gentle, yet He takes to time to nurture others even when they make mistakes and fail. He helps them up and puts them back together; He will do this with you too but you have to allow Him to form you. This character must continue to function in a society that does not see its importance. When others need an ear to listen they do not go to the ones filled with pride they go to someone who is gentle! Will that be you?
Questions
- How would you define Gentleness?
- What are the things that cause you to be rough and course with others?
- How does being rough counteract Gentleness?
- Are you aware of the intricacy and delicacy of life, so you are tender too? Are you approachable?
- When have you been filled with Gentleness the most?
- In what situation did you fail to have Gentleness in which you should have?
- What issue is in your life that would improve with more Gentleness?
- Think through the steps you need to take to put Gentleness into action in a specific instance. Such as how does God’s tenderness toward you affect the way you go about your life to get things done? Does His care affect the way you care with humility and gentleness being tender in spite of people treating you like a doormat?
Remember; what come into your mind when you think about God tells a lot about you, perhaps the most important thing!